When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow!
Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell just how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit!
– Unknown Author
Everyone has problems, everyone faces adversity. Some more than others, and it may seem that some get more than their due. We all tend to look at our problems as unique, and we often feel we don’t deserve them. Problems are just that because of the painful feelings they invoke in us:
- Sadness, loneliness, grief, regret, despair
- Frustration, anger, anguish
- Fear, anxiety
Every person experiences these feelings. Success and happiness separate the ones who decide to overcome and grow from these problems, rather than procrastinating, ignoring them, hoping they go away, pretending they don’t exist, or forgetting about them.
Personally, I used drugs and alcohol to help me ignore the problems in my life, my emotional pain. Drugs numbed the pain, and allowed me to forget the problems that caused them.
Tough thing was that my solution soon became the bigger problem, one that if I continued to ignore, would have soon taken my life. My answer to pain led to more pain and heartache for myself and my family. I had to learn to deal with life, and that meant facing problems.
Luckily, as Benjamin Franklin said, “Those things that hurt, instruct“. This is part of growing up. We need to learn how to face our problems, experience the pain and suffering, solve problems, and grow.
Scott Peck outlined 4 tools of discipline in his book “The Road Less Traveled“:
These are 4 simple tools that we have all practiced at various times in our life. I will explore them in greater depth in the coming week, so make sure to come back regularly!
I leave you with an inspirational speech from a movie that is a personal favorite of mine, the Rocky series: